400 attend Burnham church service in memory of Dylan Cecil
than 400 people attended a church service in Burnham-On-Sea on
Sunday evening (August 26th) to commemorate the life of Dylan
Cecil, the four year-old boy who died after falling into the sea
from the town's jetty a week ago.
youngster's family were joined by members of the local community
and rescue services for the service of 'thanksgiving for Dylan's
life' in St Andrew's Church, which was led by Reverend Graham
were given by representatives of BARB and the RNLI, and Dylan's
favourite song, The Lazy Song by Bruno Mars, was also played during
his tribute to Dylan, Reverend Witts said: "Dylan John David
Cecil was Darren and Rachels oldest child and a much-loved
grandson and older brother to Faith and Alice. He was a beautiful
looking child from the photos we have seen, but look closely and
you can see a face with an impish smile that would and
did - melt any parents and grand-parents hearts. But you will
also see an open smile and a look of trust in his eyes."
attended nursery but as he was shy around those beyond his immediate
family found this a difficult experience. However, among his own
family and the wider family, he found a ready audience for his
own brand of humour and entertainment. He was, as Rachel has described,
'a very bubbly child'. He enjoyed a joke with his family."
loved music and a favourite song of his was The Lazy Song by Bruno
Mars. He used to whistle along to this and when he wasnt
listening to this - he was singing songs such as Hello,
Hello we are the Kettering Boys. Darren, his dad, is a keen
Kettering Town Football Club supporter and that is where Dylans
loyalties also lay."
had an enjoyment of cartoons and computer characters such as Super
Mario and Sonic the Hedgehog , The Angry Birds and a pirate character
from the Disney Channel."
was lucky to have a close-knit family and they did so much together
from the mundane things like shopping to the more enjoyable and
fun things like coming to Burnham to see grandparents. It was
not surprising, therefore, that Dylan was
with his mum and dad and sisters when the tragic accident happened."
and enjoying each others company was a simple pleasure they
were enjoying and which ended so abruptly last Sunday.
It is a tribute to you both Rachel and Darren - that you
both went into the water, no doubt an instinctive thing to do,
but which was potentially dangerous to your own lives."
you, there will be many times and no doubt have when the small,
persistent and annoying question 'what if...' will make its way
inside your heads."
experience as people in this town and visitors this week
- cannot come anywhere near your own feelings and grief. However,
a tragedy such as this affects everyone and so we have
all shared in the rollercoaster of emotions, hopes and fears.
We have shared in something of those feelings, with the hopes
and prayers of many that Dylans body would be found and
returned to you to help you in your loss."
your own private grief and loss has been shared in part by members
of this community, both also by those involved directly in the
rescue and recovery operations."
death has touched everyone living here and visiting here. This
fact is witnessed by the sheer number of flowers and tributes
left at the top of the jetty. They are expressions of concern
compassion and a recognition that we all feel
powerless and impotent to do anything more in the light of this
tragedy. It is a recognition that we have wanted to have done
more but are incapable and unable and that we are not so much
in control of life as we so often would like to think."
than once this week I have looked out to sea and imagined Dylan
out there alone. Ive asked 'where are you'. Thank
God we now have an answer to that question and in due course
Dylan will be laid to rest in Kettering, his home."
of these emotions following such a tragedy denial anger
and, yes, depression have affected us all to some extent
and they may stay for some time to come. So be gentle
especially with yourselves and with one another. There
is no 'one size fits all' when it comes to our reactions to facing
death. We therefore have to allow each other in the family
and in this community and in Kettering to work through our grief
and to be tolerant of others who are working through it in differing
ways to ourselves."
on behalf of the family, who have recognised the role of the emergency
services already through the media and our local website and would
like to publicly acknowledge the role of the emergency services,
the Coastguard, BARB and the RNLI."
of us see you on practice nights and Sunday mornings. Practicing
possibly worst case scenarios well this week
has seen that you can respond to these theoretical cases. This
week has been the pay of for all that dedication and
hard work. The very worst that you have practiced for in theory
has become a lived reality and we are grateful that
you have shown your very best in your service, dedication and
thank you, and if at some point over the winter on a rain-swept
training session you ask yourself 'Why am I doing this to myself',
just one word is all you need DYLAN. There will be no more
reasons needed and no excuses to offer."
finally, faith in God is not an escape route from the harsh realities
we have had to face as a community and you as a family have had
to face this past week. The Christian faith does not allow us
to go off into some sort of spiritual Peter Pan Never - Neverland
where to quote the fairy story 'we shall all live happily ever
we do know based on the early church and its own experience of
suffering as described in our first reading is that they and therefore
we need never feel separated from God and therefore all that Dylan
meant and was is not separated from us. All that he was as a Son,
a Grandson and Brother and cheeky imp he remains
not only in our memory but in Spirit by Gods good
grace. Dylan may you rest in Peace and rise in Gods glory."